Boundaries and limitiations

I have realised a long time ago that I am incapable of setting boundaries. I allow people to abuse me. I allow people to use me to a point where I loose myself.

Recently I started practising setting appropriate boundaries with newcomers to my life. That is fairly easy. The problems start when you have to move old cemented boundaries to widen your space. Or when you have to entrench certain boundaries that people keep crossing. Then its Hiroshima, headbutting, name calling and in some cases complete loss of relationship rendering the boundary obsolete. But I have realised that setting boundaries does not necesarily involve negotiation.

Which ever way, I am systematically covering my bases. I am creating a safe acceptable space around myself to breath, relax and be good to myself as well as others. I am only human. I am not perfect - although I did give it a bloody good shot :-)

I get more and more happy and comfortable in my own skin. I don't beat myself up about my limitations or incapability anymore. I am who I am. And I am really not that bad.

I will keep chiseling away and plastering up. I don't think we are ever done. Life really is not that bad. Depends on the decision mostly. It's a happy thought to know I get to influence my day - even just one bit.