I hate my job. I don't dislike my career, but I really hate my current job. I went to two interviews at the same company and was really hopeful of getting the position. I haven't heard from them yet, so in the absence of a Dear Jill I remain hopeful. I got to thinking last night that maybe I want to change jobs because it's something I can do. It's something I can decide about and then change or not change. Maybe my current job doesn't really suck that much, I'm just restless because something needs to change and this I can change.
Considering all this "what I can change, what I can't" of course I get a mail this morning from psychic Koos (I'm really getting convinced now) about knowing the difference between what you can change and what you have to accept.
“We can’t change the wind, but we can adjust the sails” – Anon
This is something that we teach in our Apple Tree and coaching training.
It's a simple truth that is responsible for massive human suffering.
Learn to understand this concept and you will free yourself.
Finding peace and power Lesson 28:
Trying to force change versus acceptance
Fighting the force and direction of the wind causes pain.
Acceptance of what you cannot change brings peace.
Identifying what you have the power to change is the path to personal transformation and self-empowerment.
Knowing the difference between what you do not have the power to change and what you do is Wisdom.
Identifying what you have the POWER to change is the path to personal transformation and self empowerment.
Knowing the difference between what you do not have the power to change and what you do is Wisdom.
Meditation -
This is an exercise we teach our coaches to use. Make two columns and in the left write a list of everything you absolutely do have the power to change. Be sure that you do have that control - total power. Then the right column is for that which we do not have absolute power to change.
The left column will give us power when we claim them. The right column will give us peace when we accept them.
Question -
How have you been in pain or suffering because of thinking you can change what you can't and hiding from your real power?
Accept your Apple Tree!
I also went to a meeting last night, which felt great, and one of the ladies suggested I quiet my mind.
To stop thinking about everything at once and trying to do everything at the same time. Koos always reminds me the first 3 steps are the most important:
I am powerless over alcohol, my life is unmanageable
Only God can restore me to sanity
I should ask Him to do so
When I put it like that, it seems so easy. Acceptance brings peace. I cannot stop my husband from drinking, but I can say no thank you. I cannot make my husband listen to God, but I can. I cannot convince my husband that we don't need alcohol to enhance anything or feel normal, but I can have bliss and happiness and a normal life if I just stay sober.
NO THANK YOU!
I think it's a good thing to focus on. Just that one thing. For now, until I conquer it. Saying NO without feeling guilty. So, just for today I accept my apple tree (what I cannot change), choose the path less travelled (at least in my house), commit to saying no and definitely praying very hard to get that other job.
May it be a remarkable day.
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